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The Anger Iceberg: Worksheet & PDF


The Anger Iceberg gets a 'cool' revamp, and is paired with the Anger Spectrum to create an awesome package for therapists and anyone interested in understanding more about anger.

Dive beneath the surface, explore the depths of your anger, and embark on a journey of self-discovery and emotional empowerment. By embracing the hidden layers of the anger iceberg, we open ourselves to a world of possibilities and create a path toward a more fulfilling and authentic life.

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Working With Anger In Therapy 

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What's In This Anger Iceberg Worksheet


Anger Iceberg Image Fillable Poster

Every anger iceberg needs to be filled in with all kinds of creativity. Print this page of the Anger Iceberg Image as aPDF and let your client's creativity run wild.


Anger Therapy Activities To Use Now

It's a safe, contained, and experiential method that allows us to help clients delve into emotions and explore self-regulation. Included process questions to ask to inspire your sessions. 


The 7 Step Anger Iceberg Worksheet

A worksheet to guide you through some of the ideas that go into the Anger Iceberg. These seven steps and questions will help you and your clients understand anger and what's underneath.


The Anger Spectrum Explained:


Anger has a particularly bad reputation when it comes to feelings and rightly so, it can be incredibly destructive when it comes out in unhealthy ways. It can also be a force for change, it gives us life, energy, and motivation. It's the spark that can ignite change, the force that can push us to assert our rights and set boundaries. But, like fire, if not handled properly, it can also cause harm.

Anger Kept Inside

When anger turns inward, leading to self-blame, criticism, or even self-harm. Often linked to guilt, shame, or dissatisfaction with oneself. Can hinder personal growth and contribute to mental health issues

Anger Towards Others

This often manifests as verbal or physical aggression towards other individuals. It can stem from feelings of frustration, perceived injustice, or unmet expectations. While it may provide a temporary sense of relief or power, it often leads to strained relationships, regret, and potential legal consequences. 

Anger With Awareness

Anger with Awareness Towards Others" is when we express anger but are mindful of its impact. It's about managing our emotions, being aware of others' feelings, and promoting constructive dialogue.

Anger Communicated

Healthy anger expression is about balance. Acknowledge your feelings, understand their source, and communicate assertively, not aggressively. Don't let anger control you; express it in a way that respects both you and others. 

Anger Iceberg - A Therapists Aid

Helping clients understand the anger spectrum is a great piece of psychoeducation. At one end of the spectrum, self-directed anger involves turning one's anger inward, often resulting in feelings of guilt, shame, and self-blame. This can be a harmful form of anger as it can lead to self-destructive behaviors and a negative self-image.

When a therapist can help a client start directing their anger away from themselves and outwards it can be a sign of recovery and growth. The anger needs to be directed in a healthy way however, in the form of words, not actions.

Anger Therapy Activities

The Anger Iceberg PDF contains an awesome Anger Therapy Activities I've used while being the Clinical Director of an Adolescent Treatment center, and in my private practice. It's suitable for teens and adults, groups and individuals. 

Anger In Therapy Explored:

The Anger Iceberg Worksheet Explained




Aggression and anger is most often seen as destructive emotion - something to be feared and avoided. While of course, this can be true, it is also widely understood that anger can be a source of energy, Motivation Anger is sometimes the natural response we have when a boundary has been crossed- it CAN BE informational. 


Think of a recent situation that triggered your anger. Describe the event or circumstance that caused your anger. Write it down in the space provided below:



Surface-Level Anger At the top of the iceberg, IS visible to others and often directed at them. While this is somewhat better than anger directed at your SELF, it's not always the best option.


Consider how you typically express your anger in this situation. Choose one or more options from the list below or add your own:



Gaining awareness of how your anger impacts other people is a step toward psychological health and reflects an understanding of your relationship to other people. This often manifests as verbal or physical aggression towards other individuals. It can stem from feelings of frustration, perceived injustice, or unmet expectations. While it may provide a temporary sense of relief or power, it often leads to strained relationships, regret, and potential legal consequences.  



Beneath the surface of anger lie primary emotions that often fuel our anger. Reflect on what emotions you may be experiencing underneath the anger. Anger often gives us the illusion of being bigger, stronger, and more powerful. Could it be your anger is a result of feeling the opposite of this?

Anger Iceberg Free Printable Worksheet

Anger can be seen as a spectrum of expressions, ranging from self-directed anger to healthy expressions of anger. Understanding this spectrum can provide valuable insights into our emotional responses and guide us towards healthier ways of expressing and dealing with anger.

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