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What Are The Different Parenting Styles?
12 Parenting Styles - What is Yours?
My People Patterns has all the info you need to know the differences between your Dolphins from your Drones and your Koala's from the Jellyfish.
Take our parenting style quiz below and find out all you need to know about parenting styles and how they impact your teen or tween and your family. When you take the quiz, you are given the option to join our mailing list. We send weekly emails about parenting, parenting styles and more. You'll also be the first to know about our parent and relationship courses which we're currently working on over here.
There seems to be a new parenting term every month that we have to keep up with. If you're worried that you're a Koala Parent or a Helicopter Mom or just want to know what the difference between a Free-range parent and a Nacho Parent is, My People Patterns has the answers to all your parenting style questions.
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Helicopter Parenting
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The Parent Test on ABC/HULU is a fascinating look inside the lives of real family's who have self-identified their parenting style. Each week, four of the families s are put through the test with two different scenarios, filmed in and around the families’ homes. fter watching the videos, the parents in the back row comment and vote on which parenting style they found to be the most effective; eventually, the “most effective” style of parenting will be put through to the semi-final.
As a family systems therapist and occasional professor to grad-school students, this insight and live footage of parenting in action is unpresedenxted. I have a feeling clip of this will be shown as parenting examples in action for years to come in Developmental Psych classes across the globe!
Parenting Styles Examples :
The Free-Range Parents Or New Age
The Tiger Parents In Action
The Helicopter Parenting
Free-Range Parenting & Anxiety
What Is A Parenting Style Anyway?
Parenting Style is just the term that psychologists and mental health professionals use to coin the overall approach an individual has to being a parent, what strategies they use, and what their approach to being a caregiver is. Part of our understanding of child development comes from observations of children with and without their parents, and one of the main breakthroughs was an understanding that, in general, children could be could into categories based on how they behaved around their parents. When this was studied more, it turned out that how the parents were interacting with their children or their style of parenting was the number one predictor of which category these children would fall into.
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The Four Dials Of Parenting.
Parenting is usually and most recently conceptualized by two dimensions which are shown on an axis, this is, parental acceptance & involvement, and on the other axis, strictness-supervision. This creates a quadrant from which the four types of parenting styles of authoritative, authoritarian, permissive, and neglectful are created.
If you go a little further back in the history books, these two axis were condensed from other dimensions, and sort of squished four separate ideas together. I call these the Four Dials of parenting, and I think they're useful because the variations on four dials create an infinite number of combinations of parenting styles. I find this super helpful to understand any new parenting term that comes our way.
WARMTH
The first dial is about emotional nutrition - how warmth and love for the child is expressed. At the low end of the dial, there's anger, hostility and apathy. Parents can slide up and down the scale depending on the situation.
ACCEPTANCE
This dial is the second component of the 'Responsiveness' Scale, and is about how much the parent's accept their child, their child's feelings and behaviors. At the low end of this dial is rejection and neglect.
CONTROL OF BEHAVIORS
All infants need help controlling their behaviors - it's how we learn not to touch the hot oven or to hit people. As the child matures, the child needs less control of their behaviors.
CONTROL OF AUTONOMY
Babies are literally helpless when they are born and rely on us for everything. As they mature, they need less help and start wanting to be separate from their caregivers. This is autonomy.
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And Do Parenting Styles Matter?
Parenting styles can have a big impact on a child's development, some styles are more authoritarian, which meaning that the child is told what to do and how to do it. As you can imagine, this will impact a child differently from a more relaxed or warm approach. Other parenting styles are more permissive, which means that the child is allowed to make their own decisions with few expectations or consequences. Permissive styles are thought to be good for children because it allows them to learn from their mistakes. However, it can also lead to children not feeling responsible for their actions. It is important for parents to find a style of parenting that works well for them and their children.
What Is Tiger Parenting?
Tiger parenting, also known as "authoritative parenting," is a style of parenting that is characterized by high expectations, strict rules and discipline, and a focus on achievement and success. Tiger parents push their children to excel academically and in other areas, and may use punishment or negative consequences to enforce rules and encourage compliance.
Research on the effects of tiger parenting has been mixed. Some studies have found that children of tiger parents tend to have higher academic achievement and success in school. For example, a study published in the Journal of Child Development found that Chinese-American children of tiger parents had higher grades and test scores than children of other parenting styles. But the studies are not all positive.
What Is The Impact Of Tiger Parenting?
Doan, S. N., Tardif, T., Miller, A., Olson, S., Kessler, D., Felt, B., & Wang, L. (2016, May 4). Consequences of ‘tiger’ parenting: a cross-cultural study of maternal psychological control and children’s cortisol stress response. Developmental Science, 20(3), e12404. https://doi.org/10.1111/desc.12404
Tiger Parenting Break-Down
The Tiger Parent is characterized by an intense focus on achievement and success.
Tiger Parenting and The Four Dials.
Translated to The Four Dials of parenting, we would imagine high levels of control.
The Parenting Quadrant
The Tiger Parent is more akin to Authoritative Parenting if you look through the lens of the four quadrants.
What Is Free-Range Parenting?
The term Free-Range Parenting was made famous in 2008 after an article in The New York Sun went viral about a Mom who let her 9 year old ride the subway alone in NYC. At face value, that's pretty shocking, but digging deeper the reasoning was sound and based in reality. The decision was made together as a family, there was lots of discussion around it, there were safety plans and it was well thought out, so in theory, this was done in the most appropriate way I can think of. The results? Well, she reported them to be a,self-reliant, less anxious, more confident kid.
The key principle of free-range parenting is that children should be allowed to take on age-appropriate challenges and responsibilities and to make their own decisions within limits set by their parents.
This means that free range parents might allow their children to walk to school or the park on their own, or to make their own snack choices within certain guidelines
The Benefits of Free-Range Parenting
There are definitely some benefits of free-range parenting, including helping children develop self-reliance, independence, and problem-solving skills.
If done properly, there are benefits around parents teaching the importance of personal responsibility and safety.
Because there’s an emphasis on personal choice, the role that parents play in the limits and boundaries they set for their children are much more clear and defined.
Free-Range Parenting Break-Down
The key principle of free-range parenting is that children should be allowed to take on age-appropriate challenges and responsibilities, and to make their own decisions within the limits set by their parents.
Tiger Parenting and The Four Dials.
Translated to The Four Dials of parenting, we would imagine low levels of 'control o behavior' as well as low levels of 'control of autonomy' as both of these dials are about 'freedom' in a basic way.
Translating The Parenting Quadrant
The Free-Range Parent is more akin to Permissive Parenting, if you look through the lens of the four quadrants. This suggests low levels of control but lots of love and acceptance.
What Is Jellyfish Parenting?
ourtney Kardashian has recently grabbed headlines for her bizarre parenting methods, which some have labeled as "koala parenting." What most people don't know is that Koala Parenting is JUST for newborn babies, after a certain age, this turns into Jellyfish Parenting. What is jellyfish parenting? Well in this video we will explore what it is, the impacts and what to do about it.
Jellyfish parenting is not necessarily bad parenting, but it does have an impact according to research on a child's development. Find out what in this video.
Tiger Parenting Break-Down
The Tiger Parent is characterized by an intense focus on achievement and success.
Tiger Parenting and The Four Dials.
Translated to The Four Dials of parenting, we would imagine high levels of control.
The Parenting Quadrant
The Tiger Parent is more akin to Authoritative Parenting if you look through the lens of the four quadrants.
Helicopter Parenting
Nacho Parenting is described in the parenting video here, and there will be more to follow soon. Sign up for our mailing list by taking The Parenting Style Quiz above.
Tiger Parenting Break-Down
The Tiger Parent is characterized by an intense focus on achievement and success.
Tiger Parenting and The Four Dials.
Translated to The Four Dials of parenting, we would imagine high levels of control.
The Parenting Quadrant
The Tiger Parent is more akin to Authoritative Parenting if you look through the lens of the four quadrants.
What Is Lighthouse Parenting?
The lighthouse is a stable solid structure on the coast, that your child can find at day or night to work out where home is and to measure how far out they have sailed. The lighthouse can warn about rocks and dangers under the ocean, but the lighthouse parent is fixed in place, it can't swim out to see and take over the sailing as another parenting style might. The lighthouse parent trusts that the child is figuring out how to sail the ship of their life the best they can and that they will return to the coast when they need to. Until they're ready to return, the lighthouse parents remain a solid fixture on the horizon, shining a light and welcoming their children back whenever they're ready to return.
The Lighthouse Parent
A lighthouse parent is exemplifying a parenting approach that is akin to modern leadership roles. - Modern leaders can inspire, motivate, support, and guide - which is different from a manager who will remind your of rules and set your key performance indicators for the month.
The lighthouse parent emodies a style of parenting that conveys the best of what is known about a balanced parenting style. From decades of research we know that a balanced parenting style is correlated to better academic performance, lower anxiety, lower depression, less substance use and even stronger relationships as young adults.
Lighthouse Parenting Break-Down
The Lighthouse Parent is a term coined by Dr. Kenneth Ginsburg in his book “ Raising Kids to Thrive.” It is characterized by balance, insight and care.
Tiger Parenting and The Four Dials.
Lighthouse Parents have their four dials at the higher end of each. They are able to slide up and down the scales to fit the situation and needs.
The Parenting Quadrant
The Lighthouse Parent scores highly in each of the four dials which makes it equivalent to Authoritative Parenting. This is associated with raising successful and balanced kids with a secure attachment.
What Is Commando Parenting?
Commando parenting is a style that emphasizes discipline and structure, this approach is characterized by a no-nonsense attitude where parents set clear boundaries and expect their children to follow them. I’m a family systems therapist and recognize this term made popular by Dr Phil as a classic structural family systems technique. Is this radical maneuver an actual parenting style though?
What Is Koala Parenting?
Koala parenting is a type of parenting that is often linked with Attachment Theory, but is not technically any part of modern attachment theory. Koala Parenting is confusingly also known as attachment parenting and is a parenting style that focuses on providing a secure and stable environment for children. There's no direct evidence it promotes healthy or secure attachment though. So whether you're new to parenting or you've been parenting for years, and want to know if you're a Koala Parent ... this video is a must-watch! We'll learn about the basics of koala parenting and why it is such a successful parenting style.
What Is Snowplow Parenting?
You might be more familiar with snowplow parenting from celebs who have made the news in recent years. In March 2019, dozens of parents, including actresses Lori Loughlin and Felicity Huffman, were arrested and charged with conspiracy to commit mail fraud and are the most infamous of snowplow parents. The snowplow parent is the type of parent who won't let things stand in the way of getting their child what their child wants or needs, Just as a snowplow removes snow and ice from the road, the snowplow parent removes obstacles that get in the way of their child’s success.In this video, i give examples of snowplow parenting from my clinical experience, break down some of the patterns of this parenting style and tell you about the issues that come with being a snowplow parent.
The Parenting Style Quiz From My People Patterns
My People Patterns aims to help parents grow great relationships with their children, particularly teens and tweens. We believe that knowing your parenting style can be the start of that journey to improve, heal or fortify that relationship, because 'parenting style' is just how we describe an approach to the relationship you have to being a parent.
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The Impact Of Parenting Style On Teens
Parenting styles refer to the way in which parents behave and interact with their children. According to child psychologists, there are two main aspects of parenting that can influence child development, an emotional component and a behavioral component.
Parenting styles and techniques have been studied for decades and there's now a vast body of literature that looks at the impact of parenting. It has consistently been shown that parenting style can relate to various outcomes such as child psychological problems such as aggression and academic performance. Parenting has also been found to influence more nuanced qualities, such as academic achievement and the quality of relationships.
The Impact Of Tiger Parenting
- Increased cortisol levels in youth. (Doan et al., 2016)
- Positively and significantly associated with child anxiety (Tam et al., 2018)
This style is also high in control, but low in warmth. Authoritarian parents are strict and believe in punishment and discipline, and they do not consider their children's emotions or allow for negotiation. Children raised by authoritarian parents may be obedient and respect authority, but they may also have low self-esteem and struggle with communication and relationships.
The Impact Of Permissive Parenting
This style is low in control and high in warmth. Permissive parents are lenient and forgiving, and they act more like friends to their children than authority figures. Children raised by permissive parents may lack self-control, consideration for others, and motivation for achievement. They may also be more likely to experiment with drugs or alcohol.
The Impact Of Uninvolved Parenting
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This style is low in both control and warmth. Uninvolved parents show little interest in their children's lives and may be neglectful or rejecting when their children seek help. Children raised by uninvolved parents may struggle in school, have difficulty forming friendships, and have high levels of depression, anxiety, and drug use.
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How Well Do You Know Your Parenting Styles?
This fun test will guide you through eight questions to grill your knowledge on parenting styles and parenting types. It's a multiple-choice visual test that is eight questions long. Find out if you're going to give Supernanny a run for her money by taking the test now.
