A Relationship Tarot Reading...

(but not in the way you think)

In our couples intimacy quiz, we're using Tarot card images as a creative and symbolic way to represent different relationship dynamics, but we're not relying on traditional Tarot meanings. The cards serve as visual metaphors to reflect the unique challenges and strengths that emerge from your quiz responses. Each card, such as The Chariot, symbolizes a particular theme—like balance, determination, or progress—that aligns with the experiences couples face in their relationships. This approach helps to illustrate the results in a way that feels engaging and insightful, offering a fresh perspective on the areas of your relationship that might need attention or growth. While Tarot is often associated with mysticism, here, it’s simply a tool to provide deeper reflection and a visual framework for understanding your relationship.

The Chariot: 

Your quiz responses aligned with The Chariot show specific patterns in how you navigate your relationship's challenges. You indicated that you "take turns" in decision-making rather than always making joint decisions, suggesting a relationship that's working toward balance but hasn't quite achieved perfect synchronicity.

Your answers reveal several key patterns:

• When conflicts arise, you "sometimes" withdraw from the situation
• You indicated feeling that you're "often" carrying the emotional weight
• You're "sometimes" aligned on handling different responsibilities
• There are moments when your partner complains about expectations

This suggests a relationship in motion - neither stuck nor fully resolved. You're actively working on finding the right balance, particularly in how you share emotional labor and responsibilities.

Relationship Boundaries

In romantic relationships, boundaries are essential for maintaining a balance between connection and individuality.

There's three main types of boundaries: healthy, rigid, and diffuse.

Healthy boundaries:  flexible limits that allow for both independence and intimacy. Partners respect each other's space and roles while maintaining a strong emotional connection. 

Rigid Boundaries create emotional distance and disengagement, where partners may struggle with communication and emotional expression. These inflexible limits can lead to isolation within the relationship.

Porous BoundariesL involve a lack of personal and emotional space, where partners become overly involved in each other's lives, often losing their sense of individual identity and struggling with decision-making.

In a healthy relationship, partners aim for clear boundaries that can be adjusted as needed, promoting both individual growth and relationship strength. This is where the concept of boundaries ties in beautifully with the symbolism of The Chariot.

 The Chariot represents the journey of moving forward with purpose, balance, and control, emphasizing that progress is made when partners work together, each with distinct yet complementary roles. For a relationship to thrive, like the Chariot moving ahead, both partners must establish and respect boundaries, ensuring that they each feel heard and have a voice in decision-making. By reinforcing boundaries, the couple can create a strong foundation for mutual respect and growth, allowing them to navigate challenges without becoming overwhelmed by rigidness or enmeshment. Boundaries, when clear and adaptable, keep the relationship moving forward smoothly, just like the controlled path of the Chariot.

Relationships, Power & Intimacy : The Chariot

In any relationship, intimacy thrives when power dynamics are clear, balanced, and mutually understood.

Overt power refers to the transparent and conscious understanding of who holds influence and control in various aspects of the relationship, from decision-making to emotional labor.

When power is shared equally, both partners feel valued, respected, and empowered.

On the other hand, hidden or imbalanced power dynamics that are not discussed can lead to feelings of resentment, disconnection, and a breakdown in trust, which undermines the foundation of intimacy.

Emotional intimacy and often sexual intimacy doesn't happen when there's an imbalance in power between people in a relationship. 

Your responses about carrying emotional weight suggest that power distribution isn't always even - sometimes one partner feels they're carrying more of the burden. This could appear in several ways:

• Alternating control over decisions rather than sharing them
• One partner occasionally feeling overburdened by expectations
• Sometimes withdrawing during emotional situations rather than engaging
• Not always being aligned on responsibility distribution

Continuing Work For The Chariot