What's Your Conflict Style?










The Conflict Style Quiz: Animals 

The Way You Handle Relationship Disagreements Determines

Your Relationship Health.

In any relationship at work or home, disagreements are bound to arise. How we handle these differences can significantly impact the quality and longevity of our connections with others. Understanding our own styles of handling arguments and that of our partners can be a game-changer when it comes to resolving issues and fostering healthy communication.

Looking at your styles of fighting through the lens of what animal type can provide some levity and fun to what is ultimately a serious issue in relationships. Each animal represents a different approach to arguments and can provide us with valuable insights into our own styles and behavior as well as our partner's.

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Our quiz is a series of 9 questions long that assess for typical responses in stressful situations. We identified ten different ways of dealing with conflicts, anger and frustration based on nearly a decade of clinical experience and research into the subject. 









Introducing The Conflict Styles Quiz: Animals Memes

Using creatures and beasts as metaphors for different styles of handling conflict offers a unique and engaging way to understand these behaviors. Their distinct traits provide a simplified and visual representation, making complex concepts more accessible. Associating styles of dealing with disagreements with creatures not only taps into our emotional connection with these beasts but also offers a non-confrontational approach to discussing sensitive topics.

  • Our¬†styles of handling anger can be abstract concepts. Using¬†beasts with clear traits and behaviors simplifies these behavioral patterns, making them easier to grasp and remember. It allows individuals to associate certain behaviors with specific creatures, making the information more accessible and relatable.

  • These ideas¬†bring visual imagery to¬†our behaviors, making them more vivid and memorable. Imagining a stonewaller as a cat in a pink suit or a conflict avoider as an ostrich in a ski suit creates mental images that can stick with us, aiding in better retention and understanding of the content.

The Bull

Known for being the one to initiate the charge, often seeking confrontation and pushing others' buttons. Their aggressive approach to conflict can lead to strained relationships Can be scary like the shark, confronting others 

The Vulture

Swooping in with relentless criticism and personal attacks, tearing down others during arguments. Their words can be sharp and damaging.

The Ostrich

A conflict-avoidant creature, burying its head in the sand when faced with disagreements, often avoiding confrontation and communication and can hide like a turtle.

The Bear

With an explosive temper, The Bear unleashes a storm of anger, causing disagreements to escalate rapidly. Not always a teddy bear, handle it with care!

The Swan

A true diplomat, this pattern seeks to keep the peace and maintain harmony in relationships. They navigate tension with grace, using effective communication and empathy to find resolution.

The Owl

Relies on logic and reason over emotions when addressing disagreements. They approach conflict with a logical mindset, seeking to understand the underlying issues and find practical solutions.

The Weasel

Like a fox, skillful at changing the subject and evading confrontation, avoiding direct engagement and accountability. Their ability to deflect and shift focus can hinder the resolution of fights

The Cat

Taking on the role of the stonewaller, this conflict behavior involves withdrawing and becoming emotionally distant during disagreements,  leaving the other feeling unheard and invalidated.

The Porcupine

With a tendency to retaliate and push back, this pattern involves responding to conflicts or criticisms with equal intensity, often resulting in escalated tensions and a cycle of retaliation.





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