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Couples Communication Exercises -DIY Marriage Counseling - Questions & PDF

communication tools Aug 03, 2022

How to Solve Relationship Problems Without Breaking Up!

The Check-In Check-List is a structured activity to complete with your partner that sets the tone for the week ahead and helps solve relationship problems by increasing direct communication with each other. 

The activity is a series of 10 questions that you ask yourself and your partner, followed by sharing answers. The procedure around answering questions, reflecting on them, and then sharing is designed to deepen your understanding and feelings toward each other. Over time, couples are able to improve the way they support and connect with each other. 

Reconnecting With Your Partner

We are all busy with work, kids, family, and the day-to-day grind, so this tool is efficient and focused so you can get the maximum out of it with only a small investment of your time.  


Couples Therapy Exercises - PDF & Worksheet

This Check-List has four main goals and using it regularly, each week, will shift your relationship by targeting these relationship dynamics:

  • Gratitude
  • Communication
  • Accountability
  • Integrity

Gratitude- We have all heard how gratitude can shift your mental perspective, but studies are showing that a regular gratitude practice is a game changer when it comes to relationships.

Communication - Direct communication and the use of 'I' statements is so important in relationships; they lower the chances of conflict and reduce defensiveness. 

AccountabilityWithout follow-up, this exercise is just talking. The Check-In Check-List has built into it a way of ensuring there is a system in place to review your progress toward goals. 

Integrity:  Integrity is doing the things we say we will do - making our words match our actions. The feedback the Check-List generates, along with accountability, creates integrity and trust in the relationship. 

DIY Marriage Counseling 

Using the worksheet on a weekly basis is your way of continuing therapy between sessions. It does the work of a therapist by requiring each partner to identify needs, share gratitude, and communicate effectively. Over time couples are able to meet each other's unmet needs and reframe their mindsets about the relationship and each other. 

[ Worksheets and therapeutic tools are in no way meant to replace or substitute therapy or counseling with a trained professional ]

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