Conflict And Intimacy Courses For Couples Online Options

I specialize in working with families and couples, and I have the privilege of helping people grow great relationships every day.

My work with people in relationships did not start off gently, I worked as a family therapist in a residential treatment center for teenagers, which is an extremely challenging population with some very complicated family dynamics. Over the years, I've learned that the resources, skills and tools I learned in grad school were not enough to really impact relationships and make long-lasting, effective changes. I realized that I needed to move couples from conflict resolution and management to conflict transformation.

Conflict transformation involves working on a systemic level to change and coach relationship patterns in a focused way and interrupt repeated sequences of interaction that create conflict and ultimately lead to the individuals' feeling their connections were improved, with more love and connection. I learned about conflict transformation through studying family systems theory, which has been around since the 1950s or 1960s. Family systems theory emphasizes the reciprocal nature of relationships and the interconnectedness of individuals within a system.

By applying the principles of family systems theory in my practice, I was able to experience significant shifts in my client relationships. A couple who seemed to hate each other started to enjoy spending time together again. Moody and cranky teenagers showed up with a flicker of a smile and were moderately less cranky (c'mon, they are teenagers!). These changes were possible because I was able to identify and interrupt the patterns of interaction that created conflict in the first place.

To help couples who can't come to my office, I created and designed the Conflict Compass Course, a multi-module course that serves as a guide to resolving conflict and understanding family systems theory. It's not a quick fix or a single technique but a process and journey of self-reflection and understanding. Each video can build on the previous module, and at the same time, the course is concise, wrapping up in about 15 minutes, and includes visuals and images to make it more engaging.

The course covers core relationship concepts from family systems theory, why we retreat and pursue, understanding the difference between passing complaints and deeper conflicts, different types of conflict, and a communication toolbox filled with powerful communication skills designed to strengthen. 

There's also a special module in the course, called the Couples Toolbox, which includes hands-on exercises to unpack emotional baggage, identify relational sensitivities, and understand core beliefs that drive your relationship.

As a bonus, the workshop includes a module on the Imago Dialogue, a technique that helps partners truly understand each other- the definition of intimacy. There are also post-conflict reflection questions and journal prompts to help you gain insight and grow from conflicts.

The material in these modules is what I've taught in fancy residential treatment centers and my private practice. I've priced it reasonably because I want to share my knowledge and help as many people as possible. Instead of the $400 it's worth, you can get it for $40, or $20 if you take advantage of the current offer. You'll have lifetime access to the course, and I'll continue to add new content over time.

If you're unsure if this class is for you and your partner, remember that it only takes one person to change a system. By changing your part of the cycle, you can disrupt the entire pattern and make a shift in all your relationships. Even if only 10% of the material connects with you or you start using just one of the many tools, it can make a difference and be the spark that re-ignites your relationship, perhaps with more sex, more passion but most importantly with more connection and intimacy. 

In the program, I help people understand the basics of family systems counseling and help them understand the difference between thoughts, feelings, self and other. These are simple ideas that help us understand differentiation of self, an idea from Bowen Family Systems that helps us see that in relationships, we often end up blurring the boundaries between our Self and our partner. The more differentiated we are, the more free we are to enjoy our marriage as an individual in a partnership versus a mushed-up blurred blob of emotional reactivity.

If you're not entirely sure if this is for you and your partner, I totally get it but the power of family systems is that it only takes one person to change a system. If you are concerned you can't trust your partner to do this with you.... they don't need to! The fact that you are changing your part of the cycle means that the entire pattern gets disrupted so it only takes one person to take on some of the changes and insights this course provides to make a shift in all your relationships, bringing greater connection and emotional intimacy.

If you're not convinced that this is going to do anything for your relationship, well you could absolutely be right. An online course is nothing compared to being in a therapy session with a trained clinician. And at the same time, if nothing changes in you, then nothing changes in your relationship, and your levels of intimacy and satisfaction remain the same, and your desire and passion for a thriving relationship remain unrealized. My hunch is that even if only 10% of this teaching connects with you or you only start using one of the many tools in it it will make a difference I think we always need more tools and more understanding because we all want to live happy healthy lives and have relationships that help us flourish and that means that we need tools that help us communicate and understand each other.

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