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The Helicopter Parenting E-Book
Learn more about Helicopter Parenting and find out if you are one here.
Parenting Styles Explained and Explored
Are all of these parenting terms getting you overwhelmed or confused? ME TOO! Seriously, this whole project started because I couldn't keep up with the entire zoo of animal parent types that are out there. It turns out that there's some seriously great knowledge hidden under these names. I've done the hard work and pulled out the most important facts for you.
What's My Parenting Style & Why Do I Need To Know?
Knowledge is power! If you know your parenting style and what it means for you and your family, you know what areas you can work on to change shift and enhance your relationships
Knowing your parenting style can provide you with valuable insight into your approach to parenting. It can help you understand why you react in certain ways to your child's behavior, what your strengths and weaknesses are, and how you can improve your parenting skills. By gaining insight into your parenting style, you can become a more effective parent and build a stronger relationship with your child.
Your parenting style can also guide your decisions and actions as a parent. It can help you set goals and expectations for your child, determine what kind of discipline or guidance they need, and create a positive home environment. By being aware of your parenting style, you can make more informed decisions about how to best support and guide your child as they grow and develop.
Understanding your parenting style can help you identify areas where you need to grow and improve as a parent. For example, if you tend to be a 'helicopter parent' and micromanage your child's life, you may need to work on giving them more independence and autonomy. Knowing your parenting style can help you identify these areas for growth and make positive changes.
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Am I A Helicopter Parent Quiz
Free Therapy Tools & Psychology Worksheets
If you're a therapist or social worker who is interested in working with families or teens, here are some of the most popular mini-courses I offer. I'm constantly uploading more so highly suggest you sign up to our mailing list so you can stay in touch and learn more about the way I work every day using Family Systems Theory.
Other ideas for you to check out:
Bowen Family Systems
I think I use Bowen's Theory of Differentiation of Self every day, both personally and with clients.
Structural Family Systems
I had to learn all about Salvador Minuchin working in residential treatment, it's family systems that works.
Therapy With Teens and Tweens
I've worked with teens and tweens my entire career and have some ideas for new therapists here.
Differentiation Of Self: The Work of Dr Bowen
Our Focus this quarter is on Differentiation of Self and the work of Dr Murray Bowen. We are pleased to be able to offer you a free online course on Differentiation of Self complete with worksheets, pdfs and more learning opportunities.
To find out more about Differentiation of Self. Bowen and more, click here.
An Introduction To Circular Questioning
I have found that circular questioning can be incredibly effective in family therapy sessions and I really with I had discovered this technique when I first started working with families. The idea behind using this technique in the first few sessions is that you can identify how various family members interact to sustain or exacerbate the problem that they are coming to see you for. Without this technique up my sleeve, it would take me much longer to identify what was going on - I would get lost in the content or confused by conflicting opinions. This video will help you stay on track and provide you with many examples of the types of questions I ask. There's a PDF to download with all the questions I ask on it so you don't have to take notes in the video.
Building Rapport With Teens: How To Get Teens To Talk In Therapy
I have found that approaching the first sessions with a teenager the same way I would handle a session with an adult client sometimes leads to resistance or at least sessions in which I have to work much harder than I am used to. Our training often encourages us to start with the presenting problem and move into background information - perhaps a BioPsychoSocial perspective or Family Of Origin depending on your orientation, the key to getting teens to talk in therapy is to avoid this common pitfall. This product comes with an explanatory video and a 10 page e-book on working with teens, which includes some of my favorite questions to ask adolescent clients.
Enmeshment: Helping Teenage Clients Differentiate.
Therapy with teens can be challenging when there are signs of family enmeshment, but you only have access to one person in the family. There are a few ways to use family systems therapy in your work with an individual teen to help with enmeshment and differentiation, and this is one of the techniques that we use frequently. The activity helps clients see if they are having the same thoughts, feelings and behaviors as a family member, and gives them the option to decide to keep them or not.
20 Questions For Emotional Intimacy.
Inspired by Love Actually - here's 20 Question (that have nothing to do with the movie) that will deepen your connection with your partner.
The Compass for Couples Struggling With Conflict.
If you and your partner are struggling with conflict, take the conflict quiz below and find the course that has all the tricks I've learned in it.